Gender roles - J #6

1.

• I think that the first step to respect the rights and dignity of human beings who are considered by many societies to be outside the box it's that we, like society, must comprehend and be aware that we're no different from each other no matter what, we all are humans, and therefore we all have the same rights. That's why exist the constitution of human rights, to validate and make sure that they're being fulfilled.  
• I believe that no one decides who is in and out the box, but some people think that they can say it because they have some kind of power inside a group of people.
• About how do we learn about this, I think that being aware of what happens around you and check real sources of information.
  And if can we change our perspective, I believe that yes, we can. But it depends on the personality of the person, because if they're inflexible about their ideas or if they've a close mind they won't accept any changes in anything.
• We can become interculturally competent to deal with issues related to sexism, heterosexism and transphobia accepting these people just like they are, being respectful above all and try to comprehend and understand that they aren't different, that they are just like us.

2.

While watching the video named "The mind in diapers", I was thinking that indeed the color you're wearing marks your gender, and between that there's no middle. All my life I've heard what a woman must do, what is correct, and the same with my brothers. And yes, the roles of gender are learned, because a baby tries to do the same as their parents or family do, and they try to teach them what is right or bad to do.

3. Box one

I've heard my dad told my brothers to act like a man, while he is scolding them, and my little brother cries my dad tells him that a man don't cry. Or if he walks or do things that are kind of wears, he corrects him, because that doesn't make a boy. And the same with my grandfather, that when he sees my other brother sweeping, tells him that he doesn't have to do that because that's a thing that I need to do.

How are men supposed to be different from women? I think that there's a lot of things that both we can do, but still have etiquettes for each one, and it's bad doing something that it's not supposed to be done. 

4. Box two

I've been told to act like a lady. For example when I get mad I tend to say bad words, and my mother tells me that it isn't correct for me to say those things, because I look like a person who doesn't have education or like a woman of the happy life.

5. Can we think outside the two boxes?

• What do you notice about the influence of male and female stereotypes on sexism, heterosexism, and transphobia?
  That there's a pattern from what a person must do, in the moment the person accept their own personality they will accept the role.
• How does the influence of mothers’ help break stereotypes listed from the boxes?
  Mothers help a lot, because they want to support their son's no matter what, accept that without differences. With a peaceful attitude that brings to the society the same.

• Does staying inside the box really bring everyone safety or power?
  I think that is safety, because it's better staying in what it is known, stay in the comfort zone. In the moment when a person is out of the box, the society sees that as a bad thing, because that it's not what they were being told.
• Which box has more power in our cultural group and which in the Zapoteca community in the video?
  - In our cultural group the box one "act like a man" has more power.
  - In the Zapoteca community is the second box "act like a lady".
• How can we change these societal expectations?
  Be inclusive with all the people, being empathetic.